Happy Sunday everyone! So many people are anxious to see the lunar eclipse tonight! I’m going to head outside in a few to check out the night sky.
Interesting doesn’t even begin to describe my weekend.
Since the rain kept me from being out and about Friday night, I spent time with my family at home. In the last post, I elaborated on feeling weighed down with worrying with their health problems. It was nice just to sit back, watch tv, and laugh. We like to watch The Dancing Dolls and Say Yes To The Dress. In college, going to bed at 10 on a Friday night is taboo. I went to bed so early Friday night, you would have thought I had a bedtime.
Saturday night, I refused to allow the rain to put a damper on my plans. My friend Kellye turned 24 on the 23rd of this month. We celebrated by getting Cook Out and spending the evening at Agenda.
I never know what to wear to clubs. Heels aren’t my area of expertise. I look like a fawn learning to walk when I wear them. Plus, I’m over trying to be sexy and exposed in the club. I just wanted a chill look that was still party appropriate.
Earlier that day, I ventured to a rather new store called Styles Boutique. After seeing different pieces online, I decided to stop by and see what fab items I could find. The lady that assisted me was kind and patient. Anyone that knows me well, knows that I like to be aware of all of my options before I make a decision. This is true with my style as well.
Here are a few of the items that I tried on:
This denim jumper was a size large. While I like the acid wash, I don’t think that the cut was too kind to my short, chunky legs. The same material with a different cut would be hot!
After seeing this jumpsuit online in a creme color, I was eager to try the navy. Initially, the bagginess of the piece turned me off but I gave the piece a chance. I believe this is an x-large.
This dress is cute. I love the way it hugs my curves. I hate shape wear. Also, I’m learning to be comfortable with my belly. My belly was a little wild in this dress so I m didn’t get it. It’s still a great piece for fall. The length is perfect. You can dress it up or down, and accesorize. I see this dress with a fringed leather jacket, black tights, and combat boots.
I was a plump child. My younger and adolescent years were heavy with conversations about me covering up. My arms were too big to be exposed. Constantly, I wore sweaters and other cover ups to hide my fat, flappy arms. My thighs were too thick for certain styles of skirts. So much of my life was spent concealing my body. The women at the boutique complimented my shape. At 23, I want to acknowledge my desire to be sexually attractive. Im not trying to expose myself but I want to be confortable with my body. Body Con oueces,above the knee skirts, and sleeveless tops can be flattering to my body. I liked the dress be used if it’s detail. The hint of exposure in the back, the curve hugging fit, and the fun print were all perks. Body acceptance and appreciation is a journey. As I’ve stated, in not as comfortable with my belly. While cute and fun, the material was too thin for me.
For the evening, I decided to wear the jumpsuit. It fit my personality the best.
Payless had jewelry on sale. The three set pack of earrings and necklace together were 6 bucks!
A man stopped me last night on his way to the restroom. He told me that he “liked big women” and that he would ” take care” of me. I saw so many pretty big women last night. Yet, we keep being described as “pretty, BIG, women” and not simply pretty women. He acted as though I should have been elated that I was sexually pleasing to him. Had he just complimented my beauty, or attempted to get to know me, his chances would have been better.
This experience ties back into my prior conversation about my dating reservations. Some men act as though fat women aren’t regular women. Also, they act as though my fat is my only noticeable attribute.
I don’t plan on meeting my husband at a nightclub. Still, I like to practice flirting with the opposite sex. I’m learning how to talk to men. That’s a large step for me.
Overall, I had an enjoyable evening. Spending time with my grade school best friends is a blessing! Erika and Kellye have known me since the first grade back at Saint Vincent De Paul. Our black sisterhood means the world to me! Special shout out to Jasmine. Although she was unable to spend time with us last night, I still want her to know that I value her presence in my life.
How did you all spend the weekend?
Can’t wait to hear from you all!
Until next time,