Family Matters

We are a family, like a giant tree, branching out towards the sky.  Anyone that knows me well knows that I am a huge Dream Girls fan. I will use any chance that I get to make musical references. Anywho, How are you all doing? I hope that you are all doing well. Three Saturdays ago, I went to dinner with my family. One of my resolutions for 2017 was to spend more time with my family. My family dynamic has been fragmented for so time. The death of my biological father was an extremely emotional and eye opening time for me. I met and said goodbye to a man that I hadn’t seen in 20 years. While I am in the process of reconciling with my biological family, I want to thank my dad’s family for opening their arms to me. My cousin Tiffany and her family invited me out to dinner at Red Lobster.  It was nice spending time with family.

Bomber: Asos (size 24), Blouse: Asos( size 24), Pants: Torrid( size 24), Boots: Cato Fashions 

 I stepped out of my comfort zone with this blonde- brown toned wig. It actually looked nice on me. I try to push the envelope as much as I can. I’m young and fun, no need to be boring.

How cute are we? 
I love Tiffany’s jacket and leopard flats so much! 

Aunt Patsy does her best to make me feel included. She never mad me feel like the black sheep or ostracized me for being a step-child. I sincerely appreciate that. Adrian, Darwin and Tiffany treat me like family.

After dinner, Tiffany and I had some girl time. Nothing says girl time like Ulta. You can never have enough makeup! Our Ulta consultant was kind enough to give us free Clinique products. Tiffany definitely enjoyed her first trip to Ulta. I like that Ulta has name brands and drug store brands in the same place!

 I like this red color on Tiffany! We are both rocking vibrant colors!

After getting over being nervous about this color, I was FEELING MYSELF! Total retro, romantic, Hollywood glam vibes were flowing!

Look at my eyes, ya’ll! I put lashes on and they actually looked nice😊😊😁

Foundation as always been a sore subject for me. Colors are either too light or too dark, too red, yellow or grey. Too much or too little.  Too dewy, not matte enough. Not compatible with my oily skin. You name it. Tiffany told me about Koyvoca, a black owned cosmetic line that makes a variety of shades for women of color. Fortunately (surprisingly as well) they offer samples of their shades and categorize the shades by undertone (warm, cool and neutral) They changed the game for me! I ordered samples of Dalian, Alexandria (both warm) and Nairobi (cool). I am cool toned but the warm Dalian matches my skin the best. I wore it for the first time.

This definitely was a day of firsts. First time with a foundation that popped well on my melanin, first time wearing my new clothes from Torrid and Asos. First time rocking a SUPER blonde wig, first time getting my lashes to agree with me. Twas definitely a solid day!

 I even mastered filing in my eyebrows! I’ve been practicing.

Spend time with the people that you love whether family or friends. Air your grievances. Ask tough questions. Express your truths, your pains. Seek redemption. Do what you can to find peace. 
The most difficult part of life for me is no longer have the opportunity to ask question and get closure. Sometimes life isn’t pretty. It can be painful. It can be meeting your father for the first time in 20 years at a funeral home in Franklin, Tn. 
This isn’t me saying to forgive abusers, or accept family members that need to be cut from your life. I’m just saying to try to spend time peacefully and with laughter if you can. Ask questions or extend an olive branch if you can. If not of their sake, do it for your own peace of mind. 
Sometimes you’ve got to let go of pain for yourself. I am learning to let go of situations that I can not mend. I’ve learned from my father’s passing that sometimes the truth isn’t always what you’ve thought. 
I am proud of myself for doing what some wouldn’t. I made peace with someone that hurt me deeply. I forgave. It’s still something that weighs heavily on me but I am growing. 

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My name is Nora. I am a 28 year old Nashville native. By day, I am a #corporaterebel in the Talent Acquisition and Human Resources Industry, In my spare time, I am a plus-size blogger, Youtuber, and social media influencer. On my platform, I discuss beauty, fashion, faith, lifestyle, and everything that I encounter and experience as a young black woman who is building her empire. In my free time, you can catch me playing Sims, binging Netflix and Hulu, enjoying a bottle of sweet wine, enjoying #foodie life, getting my beauty rest, or out styling and profiling.

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