Happy October Loves,
We are so close to the end of 2020! I absolutely can not believe that we spent most of the year in quarantine. As I review everything that has transpired thus far, I kept see the “normalize this” trend on social media. Black women endure so much in a society that takes from us, drains us, and then expects us to own the emotional and physical labor of improving the world. We deseve so much more and the pandemic allowed me to reflect on structures and ideologies in my life that are boxing me in. I no longer want to be held hostage to your idea of who a respectable black woman is and how she should act. I am tired of doing the work to make your company better but being undervalued and underpaid.
- Having Standards- There is no shame in having standards. We deserve to establish, maintain and achieve boundaries and goals based on our standards. TeamNoSettling
- Enjoying luxury and Living in luxury- We are tired of the struggle, with love and with expenses. Wealth is attached to us. We deserve to be courted, to be wined and dined, flowers, jewelry and all. We deserve nice cars and lovely homes.
- Displaying a range of emotions that are not limited or restricted to strength- Bye Bye superwoman syndrome. #blackgirljoy, #blackgirlmagic and therapy can exist simultaneously. We deserve the space and capacity to feel anger, tiredness, grief, numbness, confusion, happiness and every emotion in between. The superwoman syndrome is killing us.
- Requiring others to spearhead and rally- the burden of improving society shouldn’t be carried by black women all of the time. We have more to offer the world outside of diversity and inclusion.
- Saying NO- without explaining or providing a reason
- Enjoying Sisterhood and having healthy relationships with other black women
- Abandoning the Ride or Die mindset. Receiving, experiencing and enjoying love that doesn’t involve trauma or pain
- Embracing our beauty completely- We are wonderfully made at any size, shape and shade.
- Believe us when we speak our truths- Society is quick to pick apart our truths and make us out to be liars especially when we discuss abuse, trauma and sexual harrassment.
- Pay us what we are worth! We are intelligent, degreed, leaders and entrepreneurs. We have skills, talents and expertise that is often used but not rewarded or compensated fairly. Do not ask us for discounts on our products or serivces. #paythelady
What would you add to this list?
Until next time,
Outfit Details: Nude Blazer: Pretty Little Things (size U.S. 26) , Jeans: Lane Byrant ( U. S. size 22), Shoes: Payless
Pretty Little Things haul will be live on my YouTube channel on Tuesday.